Images from 15th-century sexual book in Iran.

Sex has always been a major part of every society. It’s how we continue the human race.This book is even less known to exist than the Chinese book of sex.

 

I warn you these images are quite graphic.

Persian Sex Book

 

Upon doing research on most of these various sex books. I learned that most of women used in these illustrations were not free women. Most were slaves or a harem member. In most ancient cultures women were property. There was rarely anything exotic about being a harem member as it is so often depicted to the Western World. Usually the woman was sex slave until around age forty and then send to live on her own if the prince or sheik didn’t find favors in her.  However once on her own if she continued these sexual activities there was a strong chance she may end up being stoned to death for violating religious practices. (It was ok by the religious law for these things to be done to her by powerful people but not ok by the religious law for her to support herself selling herself.) The ironic was that this is all she knew how to do to make a living but if she did it outside the palace she was usually brought into at around age 8-12 she was killed.  

So forget the starry-eyed stories of Aladdin, most women’ lives were nothing like that. Even in the original account of The Arabians Nights. This woman had to think of a 1,000 stories to entertain an asshole to save her life. That is not my idea of romance.

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Taoist sexual practices

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taoist_sexual_practices

Many aren’t aware that there is a Chinese book much like the Kama Surta but in many ways more liberating because in the beginning, the early writings didn’t focus primary on the male pleasure as the Kama Surta. In many ancient societies sex was not viewed as a taboo as it is today. It was viewed as a normal function of every day life. I don’t agree with everything in it but we have to bear in mind this was written about 2,000 years ago but as it progress the women role in the activity became lessen.

Some Taoist sects during the Han dynasty performed sexual intercourse as a spiritual practice, called “Héqì” (合气, “Joining Energy”). The first sexual texts that survive today are those found at the Mawangdui. While Taoism had not yet fully evolved as a philosophy at this time, these texts shared some remarkable similarities with later Tang dynasty texts, such as the Ishinpō. The sexual arts arguably reached their climax between the end of the Han dynasty and the end of the Tang dynasty. After 1000 CE, Confucian restraining attitudes towards sexuality became stronger, so that by the beginning of the Qing dynasty in 1644, sex was a taboo topic in public life. These Confucians alleged that the separation of genders in most social activities existed 2,000 years ago, and suppressed the sexual arts. Because of the taboo surrounding sex, there was much censoring done during the Qing in literature, and the sexual arts disappeared in public life. As a result, some of the texts survived only in Japan, and most scholars had no idea that such a different concept of sex existed in early China.[1]

Ancient and medieval practices

Qi (Lifeforce) and Jing (Essence)

The basis of all Taoist thinking is that qi is part of everything in existence.[2] Qi is related to another energetic substance contained in the human body known as jing (精), and once all this has been expended the body dies. Jing can be lost in many ways, but most notably through the loss of body fluids. Taoists may use practices to stimulate/increase and conserve their bodily fluids to great extents. The fluid believed to contain the most Jing is semen. Therefore, Taoists believe in decreasing the frequency of, or totally avoiding, ejaculation in order to conserve life essence.[3]

Male control of ejaculation

Many Taoist practitioners link the loss of ejaculatory fluids to the loss of vital life force: where excessive fluid loss results in premature aging, disease, and general fatigue. While some Taoists contend that one should never ejaculate, others provide a specific formula to determine the maximum amount of regular ejaculations in order to maintain health.[4]

The general idea is to limit the loss of fluids as much as possible to the level of your desired practice. As these sexual practices were passed down over the centuries, some practitioners have given less importance to the limiting of ejaculation. Nevertheless, the “retention of the semen” is one of the foundational tenets of Taoist sexual practice.[5]

There are different methods to control ejaculation prescribed by the Taoists. In order to avoid ejaculation, the man could do one of several things. He could pull out immediately before orgasm, a method which Joseph Needham termed “coitus conservatus”.[6] A second method involved the man applying pressure on the perineum, thus retaining the sperm. While, if done incorrectly can cause a retrograde ejaculation, the Taoists believed that the jing traveled up into the head and “nourished the brain.”[7]

Jing

Another important concept of “The Joining of the Essences” was that the union of a man and a woman would result in the creation of jing, a type of sexual energy. When in the act of lovemaking, jing would form, and the man could transform some of this jing into qi, and replenish his lifeforce. By having as much sex as possible, men had the opportunity to transform more and more jing, and as a result would see many health benefits.[3]

Yin/Yang

The concept of Yin and yang is important in Taoism, and consequently also holds special importance in sex. Yang usually referred to the male sex, whereas Yin could refer to the female sex. Man and Woman were the equivalent of heaven and earth, but became disconnected. Therefore, while heaven and earth are eternal, man and woman suffer a premature death.[8] Every interaction between Yin and Yang had significance. Because of this significance, every position and action in lovemaking had importance. Taoist texts described a large number of special sexual positions that served to cure or prevent illness.[9]

Women

For Taoists, sex was not just about pleasing the man. The woman also had to be stimulated and pleased in order to benefit from the act of sex. Sex should not happen if one or the other partners desire it more. If sex were performed in this manner, the woman would create more jing, and the man could more easily absorb the jing to increase his own qi. Women were also given a prominent place in the Ishinpō, with the tutor being a woman. One of the reasons women had a great deal of strength in the act of sex was that they walked away undiminished from the act. The woman had the power to bring forth life, and did not have to worry about ejaculation or refractory period.

Women were often given a position of inferiority in sexual practice. Many of the texts discuss sex from a male point of view, and avoid discussing how sex could benefit women. Men were encouraged to not limit themselves to one woman, and were advised to have sex only with the woman who was beautiful and had not had children. While the man had to please the woman sexually, she was still just an object.[10] At numerous points during the Ishinpō, the woman is referred to as the “enemy”; this was because the woman could cause him to spill semen and lose vitality. In later sexual texts from the Ming, women had lost all semblance of being human and were referred to as the “other,” “crucible”, or “stove” from which to cultivate vitality. The importance of pleasing the woman was also diminished in later texts.[11] The practice was known as Caibu (採補), as a man enters many women without ejaculation.

Women were also considered to be a means for men to extend men’s lives. Many of the ancient texts were dedicated explanation of how a man could use sex to extend his own life. But, his life was extended only through the absorption of the woman’s vital energies (jing and qi). Some Taoists called the act of sex “The battle of stealing and strengthening.”[12] These sexual methods could be correlated with Taoist military methods. Instead of storming the gates, the battle was a series of feints and maneuvers that would sap the enemy’s resistance.[13]

When and where

Another text, Health Benefits of the Bedchamber, indicates that certain times were better for intercourse than others. A person had to avoid having intercourse on quarter or full moons and on days when there were great winds, rain, fog, cold or heat, thunder, lightning, darkness over heaven and earth, solar and lunar eclipses, rainbows and earthquakes. Having intercourse at these times would harm a man’s spirit and would cause women to become ill. Children conceived at these times would be mad, stupid, perverse or foolish; mute, deaf, crippled or blind; unfilial and violent.

Also important was selecting the right day for intercourse if a person desired children. After the woman’s period, the first, third or fifth days were the best. If on these days the man ejaculated after midnight, the child would likely be male. If a female child was desired, the man needed to ejaculate on the second, fourth or sixth days after the cessation of the woman’s period.

The location of sex was also important. People had to avoid the glare of the sun, moon or stars, the interior of shrines, proximity to temples, wells, stoves and privies, and the vicinity of graves or coffins.

If these suggestions were followed the family’s offspring would be good, wise and virtuous. If they were not followed, the offspring would be evil and the family would eventually die off.[14]

Longevity and immortality

Some Ming dynasty Taoist sects believed that one way for men to achieve longevity or ‘towards immortality’ is by having intercourse with virgins, particularly young virgins. Taoist sexual books, such as the Hsuan wei Hshin (“Mental Images of the Mysteries and Subtleties of Sexual Techniques”) and San Feng Tan Cheueh (“Zhang Sanfeng’s Instructions in the Physiological Alchemy”), written, respectively, by Zhao Liangpi and Zhang Sanfeng (not to be confused with semi-mythical Zhang Sanfeng who lived in an earlier period), call the woman sexual partner ding () and recommend sex with premenarche virgins. Zhao Liangpi concludes that the ideal ding is a premenarche virgin just under 14 years of age and women older than 18 should be avoided.[15] Zhang Sanfeng went further and divided ding into three ranks: the lowest rank, 21- to 25-year-old women; the middle rank, 16- to 20-year-old menstruating virgins; the highest rank, 14-year-old premenarche virgins.[16]

According to Ge Hong, a 4th-century Taoist alchemist, “those seeking ‘immortality’ must perfect the absolute essentials. These consist of treasuring the jing, circulating the qi and consuming the great medicine.”[17] The sexual arts concerned the first precept, treasuring the jing. This is partially because treasuring the jing involved sending it up into the brain. In order to send the jing into the brain, the male had to refrain from ejaculation during sex. According to some Taoists, if this was done, the jing would travel up the spine and nourish the brain instead of leaving the body. Ge Hong also states, however, that it is folly to believe that performing the sexual arts only can achieve immortality and some of the ancient myths on sexual arts had been misinterpreted and exaggerated. Indeed, the sexual arts had to be practiced alongside alchemy to attain longevity. Ge Hong also warned it could be dangerous if practiced incorrectly.[17]

 

Dressing seductive doesn’t mean dressing trashy.

I can’t stress this one enough. Too many women think dressing seductive doesn’t mean dressing trashy. I don’t even advise women to wear overly revealing swimsuit in public. Because with that little tiny swimsuit you’ve thrown away all the power.  Like it or not, that’s how it works. Men are visual creatures. Once they see what they wanted to see, then they move on to the next woman.

How keeping yourself covered works? He has to use his imagination in what you may look like. There are many swimsuit that doesn’t reveal everything you couldn’t want the whole world to see. To maintain the power ladies you are going to have to maintain his respect.

Lack of clothing only attract men for one purpose. You can’t a lasting build a relationship based strictly upon physical attraction. I know it’s said in the media, books and novels you can. But truthfully, once the thrill is gone there needs to be something else in the relationship that goes beyond sexual attractive. That’s what has happened when you think your sex life is great, it has been nothing but hot sex for months and suddenly he stops calling, stop texting, or make excuses as to why he came come by. Reality is, it’s over. Sex was there was to the relationship. woman-with-her-ass-out

 

The picture above, is how too many women give away their power in the early stage of dating, if they are simply dating and he hasn’t made a commitment or married her. Her chances of getting him to commit are very slim. I looked closer and I see a wedding band on his finger. So she is his wife but I’m concerned about them lasting because a man who intend to keep his wife for years to come do not want other men looking at her. I know it sounds old-fashioned and passe and I know we have gone through the sexual revolution and the feminist movement. But none of it has stuck in men’ head or there wouldn’t be so many who don’t call or text the next day.

And if he doesn’t care how revealing your clothing are then that speaks volumes as to how long the marriage may last. You can’t sex your way into a long, loving relationship.

I am not talking about a husband who is paranoid with jealousy. That kind of person is dangerous. I’m talking about the average husband. He would nag her until she put on something to fully cover her bottom.

 

The Kama Sutra

    Everyone has heard of the Kama Sutra, but most do not know there’s a lot more to it than sexual intercourse and sexual positions. It also speak of having or creating a fulfilling life in and out of the bed room. I know is probably the only parts most people read there’s much more to it than sex. Actually, only  20% of Kama Sutra is about sexual positions. The majority of the book, notes Jacob Levy, is about the philosophy and theory of love, what triggers desire, what sustains it, how and when it is good or bad.

Only a portion of the work consists of practical advice on sexual intercourse. It is largely in prose, with many inserted anustubh poetry verses. “Kāma” which is one of the four goals of Hindu life, means desire including sexual desire the latter being the subject of the textbook, and “sūtra” literally means a thread or line that holds things together, and more metaphorically refers to an aphorism (or line, rule, formula), or a collection of such aphorisms in the form of a manual.

The Kama Sutra is the oldest and most notable of a group of texts known generically as Kama Shastra

Historians attribute Kamasutra to be composed between 400 BCE and 200 BCE. The book consist of more than one author.

Bear in mind the book was written over 2,000 years ago and many things regarding women’s stations in life has change but below are a few things about different chapter.

1. General remarks
five chapters on contents of the book, three aims and priorities of life, the acquisition of knowledge, conduct of the well-bred townsman, reflections on intermediaries who assist the lover in his enterprises.
2. Amorous advances/sexual union
ten chapters on stimulation of desire, types of embraces, caressing and kisses, marking with nails, biting and marking with teeth, on copulation (positions), slapping by hand and corresponding moaning, virile behaviour in women, superior coition and oral sex, preludes and conclusions to the game of love. It describes 64 types of sexual acts.
3. Acquiring a wife
five chapters on forms of marriage, relaxing the girl, obtaining the girl, managing alone, union by marriage.
4. Duties and privileges of the wife
two chapters on conduct of the only wife and conduct of the chief wife and other wives.
5. Other men’s wives
six chapters on behaviour of woman and man, how to get acquainted, examination of sentiments, the task of go-between, the king’s pleasures, behaviour in the women’s quarters.
6. About courtesans
six chapters on advice of the assistants on the choice of lovers, looking for a steady lover, ways of making money, renewing friendship with a former lover, occasional profits, profits and losses.
7. Occult practices
two chapters on improving physical attractions, arousing a weakened sexual power.

The art of seduction

We see it in usage every day in everything from literature to marketing. The sexy man or woman displaying the product has nothing to do with how well it works. Or if it even works. It’s designed to allure you with their sex appeal. To make you desire the person not the item. The reason many of us buy the product is based solely on that reason. We were seduced into buying it. The model was attractive made us wanted it, desired it, so we bought it. That was the power of seduction in use. Although we see it everywhere. Few modern people truly know how it use it although It’s displayed in movies, books, boardrooms and bedrooms all over the world. Throughout history it has been used to create or destroy empire, make or break treaties. It an ancient art that many in the modern world do not know how to wield the power of. Many do not know how to use the dance of seduction to their advance. They do not know the hottest touch is with the eyes not the hands. Too many women today think it means giving up the progress women has made in the past 30 years. When that is not what it means at all. It means empowering a woman, building her confidence, making her comfortable in her own skin no matter what size she wears or what age she maybe. The secrets of a siren are not her beauty, it’s that she knows how to wield the power of seduction. How to drive men wild with a mere glance.  Every animal in the animal kingdom has a dance of seduction and so do humans.

This blog is not about sex in the way most people may think. There’s already too much of that out there. This is about the art of seduction and how to use it to your advance.