Never fight over a guy or (girl).

Women fighting

 

I am aware this is nowadays viewed as test of the strength of the love shared. But it is not worth it. Any guy who will instigate fights between women isn’t in love with either of them.

Most of us fight out of injured pride not out of love.

Some may say. “It’s my husband, my boyfriend, my whatever. How dare she approach him?!” Honey, he isn’t your man if he is cheating.He’s everyone’s man. A marriage license can’t make him yours, he has to decide that within his heart. If he still has a cheating heart marrying him isn’t going to change that.

To the side chick, if he cheats on the one he lives with for you. Then he will cheat on you for another. In most cases he isn’t leaving the one he’s living with no matter what lies he tell you. If you didn’t know he wasn’t single when you met him then leave him. I know it is not always easy to leave as society believes it is. Believe it or not many side girlfriends can not leave without suffering serious retaliations. One of the most popular ways he punishes her is letting his live-in girlfriend or wife finds the woman’s information. If he let you find it. Don’t be stupid and call the woman cussing her out. He is merely using you to punish her because he’s mad at her. You didn’t find the information nor anything else about her before he wanted you to. Most likely she has dumped him for a single man. You may not be aware of this for it isn’t discussed openly but your man and his friends maybe harassing the woman who is trying to get away from him.

Don’t give away your power by fighting over him. He is not mute. He can speak for himself. He do not need you to defend him against any woman’s advances. There are men who strive on this type of drama. Do not allow yourself to get caught up in a fight of any sort. You have no idea rather the woman is armed and dangerous and long gone are the days when the other woman ran from the wife or main lady. People today are dangerous and do not back down and no one other than your child is worth dying for.

    And no this is not strictly a poor people issue as society so often have pigeon holed it to be. It can happen to anyone of any social class.

 

 

Advertisements

Stay away from cat fights

Cat FightWhile working on building yourself up to be as sexy as possible avoid toxic people and situations whenever possible. We all know about the ladies who love to engage in cat fights. There are televisions shows, movies and books about them. Shows like the “The Real Housewives of Wherever” has made this attitude appealing.

The media has a lot of people believing this toxic behavior is sexy. Maybe to an mentally imbalanced person, it maybe. I don’t know but to the rest of us. Being a bitch 24/7 is exhausting. And unproductive.  Being assertive and speaking up for yourself doesn’t mean being a bitch. Too many people confuse the two.

Toxic people drains your energy. Energy that you need to apply to being sexy. When I speak of being sexy I am not strictly speaking of attracting the opposite or same gender. I’m speaking being sexy for yourself. That’s the first person you have to be sexy for__is yourself.

  I guess you call guys who are bitchy and provocative “dog fights” LOL!

Don’t take the bait walk away. Toxic people love to engage in cat and dog fights. The reason I brought this up is once you start shining and building confidence there are going to be people who try and provoke into words of wit. Ignore them, take the high road and twist off in your sexiest strut. Use that energy to pamper yourself.