Images from 15th-century sexual book in Iran.

Sex has always been a major part of every society. It’s how we continue the human race.This book is even less known to exist than the Chinese book of sex.


I warn you these images are quite graphic.

Persian Sex Book


Upon doing research on most of these various sex books. I learned that most of women used in these illustrations were not free women. Most were slaves or a harem member. In most ancient cultures women were property. There was rarely anything exotic about being a harem member as it is so often depicted to the Western World. Usually the woman was sex slave until around age forty and then send to live on her own if the prince or sheik didn’t find favors in her.  However once on her own if she continued these sexual activities there was a strong chance she may end up being stoned to death for violating religious practices. (It was ok by the religious law for these things to be done to her by powerful people but not ok by the religious law for her to support herself selling herself.) The ironic was that this is all she knew how to do to make a living but if she did it outside the palace she was usually brought into at around age 8-12 she was killed.  

So forget the starry-eyed stories of Aladdin, most women’ lives were nothing like that. Even in the original account of The Arabians Nights. This woman had to think of a 1,000 stories to entertain an asshole to save her life. That is not my idea of romance.

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Learn what’s important is a way of empowering yourself.

Today, we as a society are too bogged down in other people’s business. That is not important. How knowing your neighbor’s personal business will benefit you? How knowing where the girl in the Facebook page lives will benefit you? How will knowing any of these things improve your life? When I say seek knowledge I mean knowledge that is useful to you.

Yes, those like our elected officials we need to know who they are and what they are doing because their actions effects our lives but the average person doesn’t need the scrutinizing society give them. But ironic, those we need to know about. We very rarely look into their lives and those whose information is useless to us we keep them under surveillance 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. This is a mere waste of time and energy.

Men and women who know how to wield power do not become bog down in trivial things that serve no purpose other than petty harassment. They look for things that are beneficial to them and their goal. 

Stay away from hypercritical people

This is another type of toxic personality to avoid. The hypercritical person. They can see all your faults but can see the doughnut dusting on their own face.

Being sexy is about building confident and you can do that if someone is always telling you negative things. Hypercritical people are manipulators. They use criticism to control and get their way.  Most people do not realize that hypercritism is a form of abuse. 

Black and Blue is not sexy!

I have noticed nearly every popular movie or book in the past few years has something to do with abusing the woman. Why is that? I can’t make any sense out of how someone putting you down or beating you black and blue supposed to be sexy or proves that they love you?

Domestic violence is a serious issue and should be treated accordingly and not glamorized and glossed over as love. There’s nothing romance or sexy about this new game called “Slap Your Girl.” the craziness of it is….if she leaves it means she wasn’t meant for you but if she doesn’t it means she is the one. That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard.


When researching for my book I find a crime statistic that said 80% of the young women between 15-24 has experienced some form of intimate violence. The count is far too high if these young women believes that violence equals love and if their boyfriends think he is exhibiting love. Violence is about power, belittling and controlling. It has nothing to do with love.

If they believes that violence is a part of a relationship then society and their families has failed them miserably. If anyone hit you once, they will do it again and again and in some cases until you are dead. Don’t make excuses saying he didn’t mean it. Yes, he did. He goes out in public and behave civilized so why can’t he do it at home? 


Two dogs


Stay away from cat fights

Cat FightWhile working on building yourself up to be as sexy as possible avoid toxic people and situations whenever possible. We all know about the ladies who love to engage in cat fights. There are televisions shows, movies and books about them. Shows like the “The Real Housewives of Wherever” has made this attitude appealing.

The media has a lot of people believing this toxic behavior is sexy. Maybe to an mentally imbalanced person, it maybe. I don’t know but to the rest of us. Being a bitch 24/7 is exhausting. And unproductive.  Being assertive and speaking up for yourself doesn’t mean being a bitch. Too many people confuse the two.

Toxic people drains your energy. Energy that you need to apply to being sexy. When I speak of being sexy I am not strictly speaking of attracting the opposite or same gender. I’m speaking being sexy for yourself. That’s the first person you have to be sexy for__is yourself.

  I guess you call guys who are bitchy and provocative “dog fights” LOL!

Don’t take the bait walk away. Toxic people love to engage in cat and dog fights. The reason I brought this up is once you start shining and building confidence there are going to be people who try and provoke into words of wit. Ignore them, take the high road and twist off in your sexiest strut. Use that energy to pamper yourself. 

There’s a difference between romance and roamance.

There’s a difference between romance and roamance. Roamance is a word I invented for people who roam with romance. Roamance usually starts with a fiery affair but soon fizzy to a whimper because the person is in love with the idea of romance and are capable of actually being very romantic. A Roamancer is great at what they do. They can moves smoothly without a conscious from person to person, some in a matter of days. But usually it is not that soon. They leave many wondering what just happened? A Roamancer gives no indication they are leaving. They simply move on to the next person. They are very charming and romantic is how so many fall for them. They can be hard to detect for they truly believe they are sincere at that moment and are clever and charmastic enough to convince many others they are too.

Dressing seductive doesn’t mean dressing trashy.

I can’t stress this one enough. Too many women think dressing seductive doesn’t mean dressing trashy. I don’t even advise women to wear overly revealing swimsuit in public. Because with that little tiny swimsuit you’ve thrown away all the power.  Like it or not, that’s how it works. Men are visual creatures. Once they see what they wanted to see, then they move on to the next woman.

How keeping yourself covered works? He has to use his imagination in what you may look like. There are many swimsuit that doesn’t reveal everything you couldn’t want the whole world to see. To maintain the power ladies you are going to have to maintain his respect.

Lack of clothing only attract men for one purpose. You can’t a lasting build a relationship based strictly upon physical attraction. I know it’s said in the media, books and novels you can. But truthfully, once the thrill is gone there needs to be something else in the relationship that goes beyond sexual attractive. That’s what has happened when you think your sex life is great, it has been nothing but hot sex for months and suddenly he stops calling, stop texting, or make excuses as to why he came come by. Reality is, it’s over. Sex was there was to the relationship. woman-with-her-ass-out


The picture above, is how too many women give away their power in the early stage of dating, if they are simply dating and he hasn’t made a commitment or married her. Her chances of getting him to commit are very slim. I looked closer and I see a wedding band on his finger. So she is his wife but I’m concerned about them lasting because a man who intend to keep his wife for years to come do not want other men looking at her. I know it sounds old-fashioned and passe and I know we have gone through the sexual revolution and the feminist movement. But none of it has stuck in men’ head or there wouldn’t be so many who don’t call or text the next day.

And if he doesn’t care how revealing your clothing are then that speaks volumes as to how long the marriage may last. You can’t sex your way into a long, loving relationship.

I am not talking about a husband who is paranoid with jealousy. That kind of person is dangerous. I’m talking about the average husband. He would nag her until she put on something to fully cover her bottom.


The Kama Sutra

    Everyone has heard of the Kama Sutra, but most do not know there’s a lot more to it than sexual intercourse and sexual positions. It also speak of having or creating a fulfilling life in and out of the bed room. I know is probably the only parts most people read there’s much more to it than sex. Actually, only  20% of Kama Sutra is about sexual positions. The majority of the book, notes Jacob Levy, is about the philosophy and theory of love, what triggers desire, what sustains it, how and when it is good or bad.

Only a portion of the work consists of practical advice on sexual intercourse. It is largely in prose, with many inserted anustubh poetry verses. “Kāma” which is one of the four goals of Hindu life, means desire including sexual desire the latter being the subject of the textbook, and “sūtra” literally means a thread or line that holds things together, and more metaphorically refers to an aphorism (or line, rule, formula), or a collection of such aphorisms in the form of a manual.

The Kama Sutra is the oldest and most notable of a group of texts known generically as Kama Shastra

Historians attribute Kamasutra to be composed between 400 BCE and 200 BCE. The book consist of more than one author.

Bear in mind the book was written over 2,000 years ago and many things regarding women’s stations in life has change but below are a few things about different chapter.

1. General remarks
five chapters on contents of the book, three aims and priorities of life, the acquisition of knowledge, conduct of the well-bred townsman, reflections on intermediaries who assist the lover in his enterprises.
2. Amorous advances/sexual union
ten chapters on stimulation of desire, types of embraces, caressing and kisses, marking with nails, biting and marking with teeth, on copulation (positions), slapping by hand and corresponding moaning, virile behaviour in women, superior coition and oral sex, preludes and conclusions to the game of love. It describes 64 types of sexual acts.
3. Acquiring a wife
five chapters on forms of marriage, relaxing the girl, obtaining the girl, managing alone, union by marriage.
4. Duties and privileges of the wife
two chapters on conduct of the only wife and conduct of the chief wife and other wives.
5. Other men’s wives
six chapters on behaviour of woman and man, how to get acquainted, examination of sentiments, the task of go-between, the king’s pleasures, behaviour in the women’s quarters.
6. About courtesans
six chapters on advice of the assistants on the choice of lovers, looking for a steady lover, ways of making money, renewing friendship with a former lover, occasional profits, profits and losses.
7. Occult practices
two chapters on improving physical attractions, arousing a weakened sexual power.