International Women Day.

Today is International Women Day, where women around the world march for equality.

 

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Every 18 minutes a woman suffer at the hands of an intimate relationship.

 

Every 18 minutes a woman suffer at the hands of an intimate relationship.

According the National Crime Statics every 18 minutes a woman suffer at the hand of an intimate relationship. It isn’t reserved by raced, nationality and nor can social economic status protect you. The Russia parliament recently reinstalled the law it is ok to beat your wife or girlfriend. It is no longer a crime.

    This behavior has become a worldwide epidemic. Not only does it exist in America but all over the world. Often it is done in public and no one rush to the woman’s aid. There’s a case in India where the woman was stabbed to death with the single blade of scissor on the streets and people moved to the other side rather than tried to help her. There’s another case in New Zealand where a woman was publicly stripped and burnt to death for alleged witchcraft.The mob fought off those who tried to help her and sadly many in the mob were other women.

     But I’m always curious of where were her family members who are later saying how much they loved these women and girls after their eath. Frankly,  I think some are lying because love is a powerful emotion. It will prompt you to get off your behind and find out where your loved ones are when you don’t hear from them in a while or when you call them they sounded ‘funny’ over the phone or are invasive in text messages. You will push until you find out they really are just suffering from a cold. You don’t care how upset they get. Love will definitely prompt you to act when you know or suspect they are being abused.

     Worldwide as a global community we need to start setting better examples. Teach our sons that this is not acceptable behavior and stop ‘wink, wink’ at it saying ‘boys will be boys.’  Political correctness have no place in a society if people are dying from everyone being too damn polite to stand up and say a behavior or act is a crime and we will not tolerate it anymore.

     The doctors who came up with the antidote to combat the Plague wasn’t polite about it. They intended to stomp it out and they succeeded. That’s the same mentality needed it’s coming to stomp out this “Plague” of domestic violence.

       Like for example; everyone has been avoiding the blatantly, obvious link between pornography and violence toward women and girls all in the name of money. This is a multi-billion dollar industry. Porn display and present women as objects, not as living, breathing human beings with feelings and emotions. Objects have no feelings. Objects expect nothing because they aren’t living things. It desensitizes men to the fact their act maybe painful to their partners. 

      Even children cartoons often show girls that are supposedly 8-14 years old in ultra short skirts and with a bustline as voluminous Dolly Parton and most parents see nothing wrong with that. Saying it’s just a cartoon. No, it’s not. It’s the start of hooking them into soft porn before they are old enough to graduate into hard porn. They are creating new customers for the industry. Men who will never be able to have successful relationships with real women. Real women do not behavior as those in the porn. It’s harmful to both men and women.

 

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 This Man Is Trying To Explain Why He Punched His GF To Death Over A Tinder Message
Gray Collins

23-year-old Jordan Matthews is facing at least 18 years in prison after murdering his 24-year-old girlfriend Xixi Bi.

Matthews killed Xixi after an argument last August, which Matthews described to emergency responders as just “a bicker.” Matthews had become enraged when he could have sworn that he saw Xixi receive a Tinder message from another man. He began throwing her around the room, and repeatedly punching her. He later called the authorities when he noticed Xixi was having trouble breathing.

In a video released by police, Matthews attempted to explain his actions. He said he was trying to have a “conversation” about her relationship and she wasn’t taking it seriously:

    “I asked her what she was doing, where she had been today, who she was with. She would just not tell me.

    I grabbed her by the front of the T-shirt with two hands and picked her up off the sofa, then I dragged her with one hand around the sofa and threw her into the bedroom.

    Then I picked her up from there and threw her into a cabinet. I picked her up from there and I punched her in the stomach. She said something really really, I can’t put my finger on it.

    Then I picked her up… I just lost it the moment she said something she’d said before, something to do with her friend Ivy I swear.

    After she said that, I instantly punched her pretty, pretty hard in the solar plexus area around here. She instantly, pretty much, bent over, pretty much fell to the floor. I held her up […]

    I could see that that hurt. So I apologized to her. After that we just sat on the bed, and she had a little water and spilt it everywhere.”

His own video testimony can be watched below. It may contain elements disturbing to some readers:

Xixi and Jordan both lived together in the United Kingdom. They met on the popular dating website “Plenty of Fish” after Xixi moved to the country for her education.

Xixi was the heir to a multi-millionaire dollar company back in her home country of China. She was described as a kind and intelligent young woman. Her brother made the following statement to the court:

    “Xixi was needlessly and selfishly killed by Jordan Matthews, a person which she trusted. Xixi was a kind, friendly, approachable person. She was intelligent and had the whole world in front of her. The heart has been ripped out of our family. We as a family will never come to terms with our loss, and Xixi will always be in our hearts however broken they are.”

Unfortunately, the relationship between Xixi and Jordan appears to have been abusive almost from the start. Jordan would apparently beat Xixi if she refused to have sex with him, and he would send her abusive texts and voicemails. Voicemails that were submitted to the court as evidence included:

    “F*** you. Stop texting me you worthless piece of s**t.”

    “You never do anything right. I can’t be bothered texting you.”

    “I have to hit you repeatedly in the head while screaming at you.”

Friends and family remarked that while dating Jordan, Xixi became more withdrawn and appeared to be covering up bruises with larger quantities of makeup.

Jordan initially told first responders that he had nothing to do with her death, saying that they fought, but that the argument just resulted in “make up sex” that was “better than regular sex anyway”. He eventually plead guilty to manslaughter, saying it was not his intention to kill her.

He repeatedly referenced Xixi as his “wonderful girl” and offered to show investigators the ring he planned to propose to her with.

Jordan will serve at least 18 years in prison before he is eligible for release.

Stay away from cat fights

Cat FightWhile working on building yourself up to be as sexy as possible avoid toxic people and situations whenever possible. We all know about the ladies who love to engage in cat fights. There are televisions shows, movies and books about them. Shows like the “The Real Housewives of Wherever” has made this attitude appealing.

The media has a lot of people believing this toxic behavior is sexy. Maybe to an mentally imbalanced person, it maybe. I don’t know but to the rest of us. Being a bitch 24/7 is exhausting. And unproductive.  Being assertive and speaking up for yourself doesn’t mean being a bitch. Too many people confuse the two.

Toxic people drains your energy. Energy that you need to apply to being sexy. When I speak of being sexy I am not strictly speaking of attracting the opposite or same gender. I’m speaking being sexy for yourself. That’s the first person you have to be sexy for__is yourself.

  I guess you call guys who are bitchy and provocative “dog fights” LOL!

Don’t take the bait walk away. Toxic people love to engage in cat and dog fights. The reason I brought this up is once you start shining and building confidence there are going to be people who try and provoke into words of wit. Ignore them, take the high road and twist off in your sexiest strut. Use that energy to pamper yourself. 

Dressing seductive doesn’t mean dressing trashy.

I can’t stress this one enough. Too many women think dressing seductive doesn’t mean dressing trashy. I don’t even advise women to wear overly revealing swimsuit in public. Because with that little tiny swimsuit you’ve thrown away all the power.  Like it or not, that’s how it works. Men are visual creatures. Once they see what they wanted to see, then they move on to the next woman.

How keeping yourself covered works? He has to use his imagination in what you may look like. There are many swimsuit that doesn’t reveal everything you couldn’t want the whole world to see. To maintain the power ladies you are going to have to maintain his respect.

Lack of clothing only attract men for one purpose. You can’t a lasting build a relationship based strictly upon physical attraction. I know it’s said in the media, books and novels you can. But truthfully, once the thrill is gone there needs to be something else in the relationship that goes beyond sexual attractive. That’s what has happened when you think your sex life is great, it has been nothing but hot sex for months and suddenly he stops calling, stop texting, or make excuses as to why he came come by. Reality is, it’s over. Sex was there was to the relationship. woman-with-her-ass-out

 

The picture above, is how too many women give away their power in the early stage of dating, if they are simply dating and he hasn’t made a commitment or married her. Her chances of getting him to commit are very slim. I looked closer and I see a wedding band on his finger. So she is his wife but I’m concerned about them lasting because a man who intend to keep his wife for years to come do not want other men looking at her. I know it sounds old-fashioned and passe and I know we have gone through the sexual revolution and the feminist movement. But none of it has stuck in men’ head or there wouldn’t be so many who don’t call or text the next day.

And if he doesn’t care how revealing your clothing are then that speaks volumes as to how long the marriage may last. You can’t sex your way into a long, loving relationship.

I am not talking about a husband who is paranoid with jealousy. That kind of person is dangerous. I’m talking about the average husband. He would nag her until she put on something to fully cover her bottom.

 

The Kama Sutra

    Everyone has heard of the Kama Sutra, but most do not know there’s a lot more to it than sexual intercourse and sexual positions. It also speak of having or creating a fulfilling life in and out of the bed room. I know is probably the only parts most people read there’s much more to it than sex. Actually, only  20% of Kama Sutra is about sexual positions. The majority of the book, notes Jacob Levy, is about the philosophy and theory of love, what triggers desire, what sustains it, how and when it is good or bad.

Only a portion of the work consists of practical advice on sexual intercourse. It is largely in prose, with many inserted anustubh poetry verses. “Kāma” which is one of the four goals of Hindu life, means desire including sexual desire the latter being the subject of the textbook, and “sūtra” literally means a thread or line that holds things together, and more metaphorically refers to an aphorism (or line, rule, formula), or a collection of such aphorisms in the form of a manual.

The Kama Sutra is the oldest and most notable of a group of texts known generically as Kama Shastra

Historians attribute Kamasutra to be composed between 400 BCE and 200 BCE. The book consist of more than one author.

Bear in mind the book was written over 2,000 years ago and many things regarding women’s stations in life has change but below are a few things about different chapter.

1. General remarks
five chapters on contents of the book, three aims and priorities of life, the acquisition of knowledge, conduct of the well-bred townsman, reflections on intermediaries who assist the lover in his enterprises.
2. Amorous advances/sexual union
ten chapters on stimulation of desire, types of embraces, caressing and kisses, marking with nails, biting and marking with teeth, on copulation (positions), slapping by hand and corresponding moaning, virile behaviour in women, superior coition and oral sex, preludes and conclusions to the game of love. It describes 64 types of sexual acts.
3. Acquiring a wife
five chapters on forms of marriage, relaxing the girl, obtaining the girl, managing alone, union by marriage.
4. Duties and privileges of the wife
two chapters on conduct of the only wife and conduct of the chief wife and other wives.
5. Other men’s wives
six chapters on behaviour of woman and man, how to get acquainted, examination of sentiments, the task of go-between, the king’s pleasures, behaviour in the women’s quarters.
6. About courtesans
six chapters on advice of the assistants on the choice of lovers, looking for a steady lover, ways of making money, renewing friendship with a former lover, occasional profits, profits and losses.
7. Occult practices
two chapters on improving physical attractions, arousing a weakened sexual power.